SPEAKER_00 0:07

This is unplugged and turned on. Where we drop the masks, challenge the rules, and explore what connection, desire, and relationships really look like beneath the surface. This is an adult podcast and it's not intended for anyone under the age of 18. So if you're under 18, go find something else to listen to.

SPEAKER_02 0:31

I'm Neil. And I'm Trinity. And together we're getting into the real stuff. Attraction, intimacy, communication, and the moments that actually create chemistry.

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No scripts, no pretending. Just honest conversations about what turns us on. Mentally, emotionally, and physically.

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So go ahead. Unplug a little. And let's turn something on.

SPEAKER_01 1:06

Hey everybody, and welcome back. This is episode two on Neo. Um Trinity. And today we're going to talk, I think, about our next steps as a follow-on to our first episode with our origin story. It's like, and and then what? And then what, right? So introducing the We Got a Thing podcast and starting to talk about that, and then moving on, I think from there. So I don't really know the timeline, you know, that we took from there necessarily. We had conversations around February, March of last year. 2025. 2025. And I would say for me, I started at least I am the guy that will do all kinds of research and looking things up. I want to look at everything first. And I do that sometimes to the detriment of communication because I want to see if something is worth a conversation, a hard and difficult conversation, before I even bring it up. So I think for me, I jumped right in and created profiles on the major uh lifestyle swinger sites, uh Cassidy, SLS, and SDC, and really started to look at what was out there. So we created, well, I created profiles on these sites and just really started looking around and seeing who was out there and really just being scared to fucking death. And I was gonna be found out.

SPEAKER_00 2:55

Yeah, and I want to just say, like you, even on just like basic social media, like I don't know, networks, whatever formats. I am such a ghost that I knew like you would have to be the forward-facing person doing this. Because I do not GAF.

SPEAKER_02 3:22

I don't give a fuck.

SPEAKER_00 3:24

Okay, I'm afraid to say bad words.

SPEAKER_01 3:26

Um We've already said this is an adult podcast, so we say fuck on this podcast.

SPEAKER_00 3:32

Fuck. Like, I'm like, eh, whatever. I can't donate that amount of energy. I I just can't. I'm I'm not interested. And so he's not a good thing. Well, we don't even get texts from Trinity half the time. Like, come on, right? Like you get the thumbs up and a smiley face and uh sounds good, okay. Like, I feel like that's pretty that's my due diligence.

SPEAKER_01 3:56

So social media, like before all of this, Facebook, everything else, you don't G A F. No, give A5.

SPEAKER_00 4:03

I'm like, I'm like living in the real world, like she's very much analog people. I am so analog. So with this, with saying, okay, thumbs up, we're green lighted here. Neo was taking the reins of like, okay. And I'm like, okay, good yes, you've got my my yes on this to start figuring things out.

SPEAKER_01 4:33

So I think you know, one of the things, if you've never looked at any of these websites, you will certainly find out that they are very much regionalized. So while I created profiles on, like I said, Cassidy, SLS, which is swingerlifestyle.com and sdc.com, most of our area in the country is on Cassidy, with I think SLS as well, but SDC not so much. There's certainly some, but that's just not the big thing. So Cassidy was really my big focus. I would also say at the same time, we also joined the We Got a Thing community, um, which you create separate profiles for that. So that was an interesting one. That's not necessarily a dating site, but more of a community.

SPEAKER_00 5:20

Well, I think that was really helpful for us to it's like dip your toe in, kind of see who's out there, at least for me. Like, I'm like, okay, the women's side, like chat checking with the ladies' lounge, what's going on there. And it's like, okay, non-threatening. Um, and we did a lot of the meet and greets. Well, we've done some meet and greets.

SPEAKER_01 5:45

Yeah, they have Zoom calls every other Friday, I think, across the community.

SPEAKER_00 5:51

Yeah, I thought that was really, really nice. It was really nice.

SPEAKER_01 5:55

You see a lot of normal people in there just your neighbor. Your neighbor, my neighbor, uh, your dad.

SPEAKER_00 6:05

Your accountant is in there.

SPEAKER_01 6:06

Your accountant is there, your doctor, your lawyer, your fireman, your oh, your police officer. You better believe it. I will say, like, what we have certainly discovered is that there is a lot of first responders, teachers, teachers, that kind of people who seem to get drawn to the lifestyle. So there's a lot of that. Um, no fault, no, like, there's no shame in any of that. I'm just saying that seems to be a thing. I love it. Absolutely. Um, I think that shows that they are a a little bit more of a understanding, welcoming community when it comes to their own personal lives, anyways.

SPEAKER_00 6:49

Or very sexually or just re just overall repressed. Sure. Because I can absolutely understand that relate with that.

SPEAKER_01 6:59

Okay, so back to profiles, I think. So Cassidy was really the big one for us when we started. There's a a little bit of a split between that and WGT, and I'll I will get back to that. But Cassidy was where we created a profile, and you know, as soon as you show up new on a site like Cassidy, fresh meat feel like fresh meat, but at the same time, you kind of are because all of the people see that there's somebody new in town and they reach out. Good, bad, indifferent.

SPEAKER_00 7:34

It's like the algorithm says, Hey, how you doing?

SPEAKER_01 7:38

How you doing? How are you doing? Um, so a few people had reached out, um, and I will tell you it freaked me the fuck out.

SPEAKER_00 7:47

And freaked me out times 10. I'm like, Maybe Mayday SOS, shut down.

SPEAKER_01 7:53

Even more so for Trinity. Um, but started, you know, figuring out what a profile should look on there, posting a few pictures, definitely hiding faces and being ultra scared about what that would look like. Um, but creating a profile nonetheless.

SPEAKER_00 8:13

And I gotta, and I'm I'm sorry, I'm gonna interrupt. No, please don't. I've had a couple glasses of wine. This is a snake and herring, dirty boots, cabernet. Not today, not today. Just wine. Um so what comes to mind is like this new like we totally missed this online dating.

SPEAKER_02 8:41

Oh shit.

SPEAKER_00 8:43

Yeah, like this is a world we are so unfamiliar with. And so having a profile and knowing like what to put into that. So I just wanted to say that piece of like online dating is a new adventure for us.

SPEAKER_01 8:59

And who thought we would ever be doing something like that?

SPEAKER_00 9:03

Not me, I'll guarantee that.

SPEAKER_01 9:05

Absolutely. So created profile on Cassidy, people started reaching out. Um, not sure what the hell to do with that because in reality we had just started talking about this and not sure where we were going with any of this, if anywhere. Um, but there was at least one couple we decided that we would go and meet. Um, so we kind of used the there's a couple different things on Cassidy. There's a little messenger and there's an email kind of thing. We were using uh back and forth a little bit because shit, I was brand new. I didn't know what the hell worked better, and I was using it on my phone. That's a whole different thing about figuring shit out when you're new.

SPEAKER_00 9:53

You just gotta do it.

SPEAKER_01 9:54

You just gotta do it. But looking at what people might be doing on their computer versus their phone and how things look like totally different.

SPEAKER_00 10:01

Um and I'm I'm acting like I know.

SPEAKER_01 10:03

You don't?

SPEAKER_00 10:04

I have no idea because I'm so removed.

SPEAKER_01 10:06

I'm like I have no clue.

SPEAKER_00 10:08

What are we doing to what are we doing Friday?

SPEAKER_01 10:10

I'm figuring all this out on my own, and I am your tech support.

SPEAKER_00 10:14

I'll just honestly just I'm accepting that. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 10:17

So, anyways, um started talking with a couple and decided, hey, we will go and meet up with you guys. Um, yeah. Certainly they knew that we were new to this, explained that. Um, and they had said, hey, you know what, that's fine. Um and you'll learn this too if you're doing this. Like where we have pants on and pants off friends, that's a term too. Um, but I think the the thing for us was like, and I think that's what you'll learn in the podcast I had too is a lot of times we're just like fuck it, let's go do something because we can talk about it all day long, and I will do that. I will dissect everything, but just go do it because we are confident in our relationship. Yeah. Um like we're not gonna break us, we're not gonna break us. Um, we'll go do a fucking thing and then we'll figure out later.

SPEAKER_00 11:14

Yeah, we can laugh about it or just cry about it or whatever about it, and it just be an experience that we can just process together.

SPEAKER_01 11:23

Absolutely. So we had there's that word absolutely again. So we had our first date.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

It was a date.

SPEAKER_01 11:34

Yeah, yeah. Uh which I have a really Trinity had a really hard time with originally.

SPEAKER_00 11:39

I'm like, is that not a fucking date?

SPEAKER_01 11:40

This is not a date.

SPEAKER_00 11:41

A date is you and me. We do.

SPEAKER_01 11:43

You and I, whatever the grammatically correct bringing is there's still some struggles around that word, but it was a lunch get together.

SPEAKER_00 11:55

Brunch, get together.

SPEAKER_01 11:56

We met them in our town at a cozy little cafe kind of thing. Um, and I think had decent conversation. And I don't want to say too much here because frankly, I don't want to get in trouble. No, because I think it has more to do with how I felt we showed up.

SPEAKER_00 12:18

Just I would say, like, babe, like Neo, just say the thing. Like, I know I was really close to weakened up tight. And I'm like, yes, let's do a thing. I'm always like, yes, let's do the thing. And even though I'm like, I feel like I push myself, even though I'm like, I'm uncomfortable, let's just do the thing. And that's all I have to say about that.

SPEAKER_01 12:44

So we met this couple, had some good conversation. Um, I think. Was it was it good? I I I enjoyed the conversation. I I think if you guys hang around long enough, you'll find out that I can talk to people. I enjoy talking to people, I enjoy finding out about people, I enjoy listening to their stories. All of that makes me happy. I like to hear that.

SPEAKER_00 13:05

I'm more of an energy. What do I feel is happening kind of person? I don't want to be like that, but that is the reality.

SPEAKER_01 13:15

Meaning, like, I want to go deep in conversation and I'm okay with that. Especially, I think, being that that was our first date. Like, I'm okay going deep in conversation. I want to know people. And I think Trinity, I don't want to speak for you. She did give me permission, folks, so I'm going to talk. Like, yeah, I think she was also hyper nervous, unsure, and felt very closed off. We had conversations about this afterwards, like the difference in how I perceived something in her. I just felt like at the time she was like clutching her purse and just ready to fucking bolt.

SPEAKER_00 13:59

Like I was, I was. But it was like an uncomfortable environment. Like we're in this tiny little table, like the physical environment wasn't ideal. Remember, first date. Yeah, we're in, we're right next to a bunch of people. We can't really openly speak, like it's not like I said, not ideal. So trying to have these conversations, like we're like our knees are almost touching. We're just kind of slammed all the four of us together.

SPEAKER_01 14:32

Because that's what it's all about, people.

SPEAKER_00 14:34

Yeah, like I wouldn't mind it if it's like my friends now, like hey, but first date people. It's like, yeah, like, ah so yeah. Absolutely. So and I'm just nodding my head like, yeah, that wasn't nodding my head. My legs were it wasn't. Like, I knew I was guarded and knew it was like kind of restricted, and like, mmm, and also still trying to participate in conversation.

SPEAKER_01 15:10

Can can I I just wanna, this is a this is our second podcast, people, so just bear with me. Like, I want to kind of pause there a little bit just to kind of give a little bit of background too. Like, my beautiful wife, Trinity, is all about like I think security, being aware of things. So this was an out-of-the-element kind of thing. So the hyper vigilance, I think, for her, oh yeah, all of that, being around people talking about sex in this kind of brunchy morning-ish area.

SPEAKER_00 15:49

Very open on like who do I I don't know, you people that I'm here on a date with.

SPEAKER_01 15:56

Right. There's all these people around us, right?

SPEAKER_00 15:58

Like just my stuff that I have to deal with, like who is around me, who is in front of me, who's inside of me. I have to be really aware of that. And it's like, who is actually talking to me?

SPEAKER_01 16:12

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 16:13

Yeah. And and given that we have lived abroad and this couple could relate with that, like we were able to have like conversations around that. And just honestly, that was not that was sort of a turn off for me. Just personal experience.

SPEAKER_01 16:34

Absolutely. And I think we've learned a little bit more about that, you know, the the more of this we've done.

unknown 16:41

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:42

That was our very first.

SPEAKER_00 16:44

It was, it was, and we try to make it connect and connect and connect and connect with these people again. Like, hey, giving ourselves grace, like you know, the first is our first is the first. But it was like we never were able to connect with them again because you know what? Like, I feel like we blew it. We were newbies, but we were so green, we were newbies, and I just like owned that and like, yep, you're right. Like, yeah, that was trash. And I was probably RBF, like all the way. I absolutely own that.

SPEAKER_01 17:18

I agree. RBF all the way. Yep. But I honestly, like, frankly, the other wife was a little RBF too, but I think that's also the coming from abroad.

SPEAKER_00 17:30

That's a European thing. And I'm like, that's okay.

SPEAKER_01 17:33

But I think also, like, as we've gotten more down the road with this, it's also understanding, you know, why people are in this. So, you know, there probably wasn't necessarily some matchup there, at least at the beginning.

SPEAKER_00 17:49

That was a big thing for me because we had listened to a ton a ton of podcasts.

SPEAKER_01 17:56

And I still do. We still do.

SPEAKER_00 17:58

Yeah, like I'm I'm like at the end of the road with that. Um it's like their story was like a revelation of like, whoa, this isn't this isn't a follow the script. Right. This is different. What do you do with this?

SPEAKER_01 18:15

I haven't heard this on a podcast before.

SPEAKER_00 18:18

Like, how do we adjust? Do does this fit us? Their dynamic is different. Yeah, that and I think if we were to meet them now, it would be very different.

SPEAKER_01 18:30

It would totally be different, but that was our first date. Yeah, I can say that now. Date, honey. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 18:37

It's so true.

SPEAKER_01 18:39

We dated a couple of gross. So I think that was it. That was our first date. Um I am not necessarily the most um reliable when it comes to memory, but I'll kind of move on from there. I think. Next, I had reached out to a couple. We joined the WGT community. We got a thing community. I think I mentioned that. Yeah, love that. And we reached out to a couple that you're a safe and welcoming community. Absolutely. And it's not that's not a dating site community at all. That said, I certainly did reach out to a couple that were local to us where we're at. Um, and it was really more of a hey, uh, I see you're local to us, you're part of this community. So far, we've been on these um Zooms and in all of the chats, and it seems very comfortable. I would love to meet up with you guys just to kind of hear your story and to be able to talk about this shit that we're doing and hear another person, another couple's perspective.

SPEAKER_00 19:49

And I'm this is like couple number two, and I'm thinking, okay, okay, slap my slap my face. Uh-oh. Okay, do better. Do better both. Show up different, show up different. Like, what did you learn from the last quote unquote date that you want to do differently in this one? And that's personally, like, I wanted to show up differently. Like, I did not want to be so freaked out.

SPEAKER_01 20:20

Okay, so before we actually went on a date with that second couple, we've been I had been talking with them on We Got a Thing. Um, but we said, hey, you know, we've started talking with a few people on Cassidy, talked to this couple on WGT. What else is going on? Um, and I started looking at house parties, um, things that are in our state within a reasonable driving distance. Because for us, we don't necessarily, didn't necessarily, still don't necessarily want to do anything in our town.

SPEAKER_00 21:01

Um but you'll hear about hell no!

SPEAKER_01 21:04

You'll hear about the time that we did and why we don't. Um, but we decided, hey, let's go check out a house party. Let's just see what those are like. We've heard about this shit on all the podcasts we listen to. We've gone out on a date. Let's see what's next.

SPEAKER_00 21:19

So we this is our very first event. Very first event.

SPEAKER_01 21:25

There is a club that is a couple hours from us in one of the major cities. And um you actually have to go through an interview kind of vetting process just to be able to join.

SPEAKER_00 21:38

Well, it's a club, but not a club club. It's a group of people, but not a club.

SPEAKER_01 21:43

Absolutely. It's not a club you go to. It is a group that does house parties, coordinates house parties all over a larger city. Uh so we had seen a house party that I wanted to go to.

SPEAKER_00 21:58

Yeah, come through Cassidy. You're like, hey, there's this house party. I'm like, yep, sounds good. Let's do it. It was and you're like, um, it's a BDSM party. I'm like, oh, hold on.

SPEAKER_01 22:10

I'm gonna go back on that one.

SPEAKER_00 22:12

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:12

Because it originally was what I wanted to do and I still love very much, which was a glow party. It was an 80s kind of themed party. Yeah, that's true. But I think by the time we had reached out to try and figure out what um how to get to that party, that one was already full. So we'd reached out to the to the owner uh of the club and applied for membership at least just to make sure that you know we could go to future events and had an interview scheduled. And even that was nerve-wracking, right? Because it's the first time you're like, hey, I'm gonna I'm gonna join this weird club. Uh, a bunch of people that just want to have sex with us. That's the story that we tell ourselves.

SPEAKER_00 23:03

Um, I think that's the story you told yourself. I'm like, yeah, let's go.

SPEAKER_01 23:06

That's a story I told myself.

SPEAKER_00 23:07

Like, if we don't like it, we'll just bug out.

SPEAKER_01 23:10

But it had more to do with like, I have to now go on web camera and show my face to somebody. And I hadn't done that.

SPEAKER_00 23:17

Were you nervous about that? Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 23:19

I was not. Like, I don't know what I'm doing. Of course you're not. Like my beautiful. My wife Trini is not a nervous kind of person. Like when she says she's gonna do something, she's gonna do it. Yeah. Me, when I say I'm gonna do something, I'm gonna be like, hey, in a month, I'm gonna go do this thing. And then for the next month, I'm like trying to talk myself out of doing it.

SPEAKER_00 23:41

Were you thinking about it like the days leading up? Oh, absolutely. Like I only thought about like five minutes before you're turning the camera on. Yeah.

unknown 23:48

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 23:49

So, anyways, we met with the owner, and it was a great conversation.

SPEAKER_00 23:55

That was great. Yeah. Yeah, I thought like um the just wanted to see that we were real humans, that we were a couple. I think probably just seeing what kind of honestly what we looked like. Because that's a thing. Like, honestly, like that piece.

SPEAKER_01 24:13

Because it's a wide gamut out there.

SPEAKER_00 24:15

Um, and also I think there was a lot of reassurance because like this person knew that we were new and wanted to go over just basic things of like what to expect. And I really appreciated that.

SPEAKER_01 24:30

Yes, and I think she made it, she made it very comfortable, and she also talked about their events and talked about how they're really focused on consent and also something we really like to do dance.

SPEAKER_00 24:45

Oh dancing, she's a dancing freak like me. Like, oh my gosh, I love it, I love it.

SPEAKER_01 24:54

We both love to dance, and we've always talked about wouldn't it be awesome if they had like a Gen X type club where you could dance starting at like 6, 7 p.m. and then be done by 10 or 11?

SPEAKER_00 25:07

Like we found it, but it actually starts at what eight or nine? Yeah, I love it.

SPEAKER_01 25:12

I love it. We met her, realized that obviously the glow party we were too late to sign up for.

SPEAKER_00 25:19

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 25:20

Um, but she said, hey, we have a house party coming up in a couple weeks.

SPEAKER_00 25:24

Oh my gosh, and what was the theme?

SPEAKER_01 25:26

You already mentioned it. Oh did I? BDSM. Oh my gosh. Like, holy shit, our first house party. We're not really into that scene. Never thought we would be.

SPEAKER_00 25:36

Well, you ask, you're like, Neo says, like, hey, so the next one is a BDSM. BDSM. And I'm like, yeah, okay, let's do it. Like, but um it's like there's demonstrations and there's some teeth like teaching and this educational, but and she had talked about it too, like, hey, don't worry about it. Like they're you don't have to be into it. Yeah, it's kind of like you do you, and I'm like, yeah, I don't, I don't care. Like, let's just do a thing. And this is our first event, people. It is our first house party. Yes, we're doing it. Let's just go do a thing. No fear, very 1990s. That's that's like motto, no fear. That's my we're doing a thing.

SPEAKER_01 26:18

And I'm usually no fear too until we get closer to the time, and then I'm like, what the fuck are we doing? So we made arrangements because I gotta tell you, that's one thing you'll learn. Everything's fucking expensive. The house party, not all that expensive, but for us, because we're not doing things in our town, we have to travel, which means a whole bunch and we have pets. We have pets. So we have fur babies, we gotta make arrangements for them. All that stuff. But we do all this stuff, and we go up to our first house party, um, hang out at the hotel a little bit, check in. Uh, funny side note. We I'm a little tired because uh I don't sleep well leading up to things like this. Um, so we went to get some coffee.

SPEAKER_00 27:04

Oh my gosh. Are you talking about bikini beans?

SPEAKER_01 27:07

Bikini beans. There's a place called bikini beans nearby. Let's go and ask it.

SPEAKER_00 27:11

It's like a great idea.

SPEAKER_01 27:12

Do you know what the fuck kind of place that is?

SPEAKER_00 27:14

He's like, it's like Hooters, but for coffee. I'm like, I don't care.

SPEAKER_01 27:17

Like, just do bikini beans. So it was very fitting to the the night we were about to have, but you go up there and there's like 19, 20-year-old girls dressed in thongs serving you coffee, flirting with your husband. And I'm like, I'm very uncomfortable right now because you have a nice ass, but my wife is here, and we haven't done it. I'm going to die. Going to die. So, anyways, we got coffee, hung out at the hotel, and then we got ready for the party.

SPEAKER_00 27:50

And I think a lot from what from the stuff that we've experienced so far is sleep management, energy conservation of like do that well, even if I want to. Oh, man. Because you're gonna you're gonna be up late.

SPEAKER_01 28:08

Tell 1, 2 a.m. And when you're our age, people, that's not something we do normally. My wife, Trinity, does amazing though. She's like, hey, I'm gonna take, I'm gonna take a nap. And uh two minutes later, she's asleep. Yeah, the lights are out. I go to sleep. For me, I'm just sitting there listening to her sleep and thinking how amazing that would be if I could do the same thing. That sounds like torture. So, anyways, we did that. Um, and then we headed out to the house party. And I think one or two minutes down the road, I'm like, are we fucking doing this? Is this and she's like, Oh, it's got it.

SPEAKER_00 28:49

I think you started talking, you're like, okay, we can turn around and leave. And I'm like, what, dude? Like, what are you talking about? Just get there. Like, I am resolved, like, we're doing this thing. Cause I'm thinking, if we don't like it, we will just leave. That's right.

SPEAKER_01 29:06

We're grown-ups.

SPEAKER_00 29:06

Yeah, like we'll just if we don't like it, we will leave.

SPEAKER_01 29:10

Yeah. But we went. Um, our very first house party. We went in, got checked in, typically. At least for this group, they give you a house kind of tour. Yeah, that was really good. They they told us, hey, get there early just so you have time to to do the tour and also to talk to people before the music kicks off and gets really loud. And that was good. We made a pact to talk to. Oh, to one, not sit down.

SPEAKER_00 29:38

Yeah, we made a there's a goals, and of course we got these from our podcasters like Phoebe and Ed, like, hey, don't sit down. And Nikki and Mallory and all of our favorites have like, don't sit down and talk to at least three talk to at least three people. So that was our goal. We did not sit down. I don't think we ever, I don't think we ever sat down.

SPEAKER_01 30:02

No, we didn't sit down ever.

SPEAKER_00 30:03

But we tried like, okay, go talk to that person. Let's go talk to that person.

SPEAKER_01 30:06

We talked to three people at least. We talked to one couple for quite a while. They were from what she was from Ohio.

SPEAKER_00 30:15

Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:17

Very chatty. It was we really enjoyed talking with them, and then the music kicked on, and then we were gone, I think. Cause we were like, bye, bye-bye. Cause dance. Yeah. And then we met another couple that I had actually talked with a little bit on the club website, um, but not much there. And then we met the other couple that I had been talking to on WGT. They had stopped by the house party. So we said hello there, met for the first time.

SPEAKER_00 30:46

We really talked to the gentleman.

SPEAKER_01 30:48

Gentlemen. Because that's how things generally work.

SPEAKER_00 30:51

The gentleman on these sites was just kind of hanging around, and his beautiful wife was fluttering around somewhere.

SPEAKER_01 30:59

Uh-oh. Are you thinking they're gonna listen to this?

SPEAKER_00 31:03

I feel like on the feelings of these people. Yes, but we've been chatted with him. Yeah, and realized, like, oh, this person is from our area. Ooh. Kismet or Serendipity or whatever that shit. Whatever, the universe, the planets aligning, like, oh, cool.

SPEAKER_01 31:29

So we hung around at the party, we danced, they did some interesting BDSM demos. We saw some dudes. Shabari.

SPEAKER_00 31:39

We saw Shabari, which I gotta say, I had thought, like, yeah, that seems so I'm so interested. That seems so sensual and sexy. And then I saw it and it was like too much work, people. Boy. Too much work. You know what? I do a lot of work during the week. Like, I don't want to break. I'm not doing that.

SPEAKER_02 31:58

Too much work.

SPEAKER_00 31:59

So it was very, I very much respect it. It is a beautiful, I feel like it's art. Yeah. And I don't have, I cannot commit to something like that.

SPEAKER_01 32:12

Nope. And uh yeah. So it was awesome to watch, but I swear it took like an hour and a half for this person to get tied up, and then another hour for them to get lowered and untied. So we kind of looked at that and said, I guess we won't be doing a lot of Shibari type stuff. That's not really our scene, but mad respect for all the people that were there.

SPEAKER_00 32:33

And we got to like go to different, I guess, like demonstration areas in this house party to see, like, oh, there's some flogging. Um, yeah, just different things. And we were like, okay, a little exposing yourself, like exposing to different um, I guess, BDSM things.

SPEAKER_01 32:54

But it was interesting. We watched some people go off in our some rooms. I think we were looking around just to see. Uh, saw some people having sex in one of the playrooms upstairs, but we ducked out early, probably like midnight.

SPEAKER_00 33:10

Yeah, I think we're done.

SPEAKER_01 33:11

About midnight. We said, hey, we did it. We met three people, we accomplished our goal, went back to our hotel.

SPEAKER_00 33:17

And we survived.

SPEAKER_01 33:18

We survived, and we had some good sex in the hotel when we got back.

SPEAKER_00 33:23

We did.

SPEAKER_01 33:23

And then we passed out because it was too late for these for us.

SPEAKER_00 33:27

Like, feel like we were old, and we were like, oh my gosh, I'm dead. And hey, it felt like a success, and we were really proud of ourselves, and it was it was fun.

SPEAKER_01 33:40

I thought it was fun. We got our first win.

SPEAKER_00 33:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 33:43

Yep. So that was our first experience, um, our first date, our first house party. We'll continue this on in the next episode where we'll talk about the us meeting up with um our local friends here for the first time on a yes date. Um, and then kind of go from there and eventually get into some other topics on this podcast. But if you're still here, thanks for listening.

SPEAKER_00 34:13

You're amazing.

SPEAKER_01 34:14

You're amazing. Thanks for listening. And uh, we'll see you on the next podcast. This is Neil and Trinity. And we're signing out.